As hard as it may be to accept there will be times in your life where the person who you like, love or care for decides for whatever reason that he or she does not want to be with you anymore. Whether they give you the “let’s be friends” speech, the “I think we need to take a break” line, the “I need to get myself together” talk, the “you’re too good for me” excuse, the “I’m not ready for a relationship after they hit it and grew tired of it or they simply cease all communication leaving you to conclude that that the two of you are no longer together anymore, there is one thing that you must do if you are to grow forward as a well-adjusted adult with self-respect and dignity; Let Them Walk.
No dramatic scenes, no knock-down, drag-out fights, no asking why can’t we work it out a thousand times, no blowing up their phone leaving half-crazed, barely-coherent messages, none of that. Simply take a deep breath, pull yourself together, tell them how you feel, acknowledge what you got out of the time you shared together and let them go without batting an eyelash.
See the thing of it is, when you hold on to someone who does not want to be with you or who is unwilling to make you a primary priority in their lives or who treats you less than you deserve, you shortchange yourself and hold yourself back from God’s best. You may even be thinking that the person who left you was the best thing since sliced bread, but if that were true then the two of you would be in a happy, healthy, mutually nurturing relationship now. Right? Right.
Perhaps it’s a timing thing. You know how they say…right person, wrong time. Well if that is the case then the thing to do is to give the person who wants to end the relationship all the time they need by stepping back completely and getting on with your life. If it’s meant to be, then down the road while you are getting on with your life and happily doing you, the universe will find a way to bring the two of you together. If not, then you will meet someone even better. So you really can’t lose by allowing the people who want to walk out of your life to walk on. And here’s the most important part of moving on: the only way to move on completely is to keep it moving without looking back, not to tether back-and forth in relationship limbo or worse reduce yourself to a built-in booty call upon request.
So for those of you who are on the receiving end of a break-up, my question is…When the person you love, like or care for wants to walk out of your life will you relinquish your self-respect….or will you acknowledge the lessons learned, take it for what it’s worth and let them go so you can move on to bigger and better things? It’s your life, just my take on the issue. Remember – You hold the pen that writes the chapters of your life.
